Well today is the last day of Bondage Week. It’s been fun! I hope you enjoyed it.
I wanted to write a wrap-up for the week and reiterate why it was important for me to do this event.
If you were to announce to someone that you were “into BDSM,” they would either be A) way into it or B) freaked out. It’s the people that get “freaked out” that this was for. Typically I have found that people are only weirded out by BDSM because they haven’t actually learned about it. They have heard fantastical stories about people who like the shit kicked out of them and immediately write it off as bizarre.
Everyone is of course entitled to their opinion. But for someone to use something like BDSM as a weapon to verbally attack or embarrass a person or persons, then I take issue.
Recently David Carradine was in the media after his sad death. The things I heard in the wake were so upsetting. People were telling me, of all people, “Wow I bet you have to deal with freaks like that all the time!”
He wasn’t a freak. And people that are into BDSM aren’t freaks. Because BDSM isn’t freakish.
The very core of bondage is pleasure. It is about making someone else feel good, making yourself feel good, experimenting and trying new things. It’s not about breaking people’s legs. It’s about being happy. That’s why it bothers me when people talk down about it. You’re talking down about something that people use to make themselves happy when you have no idea what it even entails.
One of the reasons I started this site in the first place was to encourage people to explore their own personal sexuality in a safe, fun, uninhibited way. I hope that some or all of the posts from Bondage Week gave you some insight into the possibilities of your sexual practices.
No matter how you choose to have sex remember to play safe and creatively, but most importantly — remember to play.