Congratulations! You’ve made it through Bondage Week! But before we wrap it up, we’ve got one more little chit chat to have about dressing up and acting the part.
Keep reading for some information on why dressing up and attitude are important to your role playing and basic core sexual energy.
Dressing up is fun, admit it. Halloween is one of the best holidays because it’s celebrated with candy and costumes. Let’s have more of that year round!
When it comes to attire, you can really wear whatever you want. I wont go into the various costumes out there, but I will say that dressing the part can be an excellent enhancement to heavy or light roleplaying. If you want to be treated like a naughty school boy, it really doesn’t make sense to be wearing skinny jeans and a v-neck. Or if you want someone to obey your orders like the drill Sergent you are, you should probably look tough, not in H&M.
I personally enjoy wearing underwear that I really don’t care about and having it ripped off of me. Not every time obviously, that would get a bit costly. But every once in a while, dressing in clothes with sex in mind can be fun. If you don’t want to ruin your precious American Apparel briefs, then cheese it up and buy some edible undies at least. Give it a try!
So you are dressing the part. Now you need to keep your attitude in check.
BDSM is a blanket term for SO many things. Among these things are several forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, sexual roleplaying, and power exchange. In order to play properly though, you must remember to keep it sane, safe and consentual (SSC).
One step further, it is important to remember that your roles are meant to be complementary. That doesn’t mean that you have to be the top if you are going to be the dominant one. It just means that your attitude needs to work with your partners, not against it. People too commonly fall into attitudes that work against them, like those who suffer from what is known as Dom’s Disease, for instance — which is basically an ego-maniacal dom. Whether you like it or not, your attitude is going to get you exactly what you deserve. If you are an asshole, then the compliment to that is typically your partner leaving.
